Straight to the next.
These days, it seems we’re always eager for the next thing.
The next promotion.
The next event.
The next vacation.
The next big project.
Recently, I learned this powerful framework from Gail Larsen’s Transformational Speaking program (I highly recommend it!) called the JourneyWell Wheel of Life.
Our life (and work) go in cycles.
This JourneyWell Wheel suggests there’s a cycle we go through that often starts with;
Innovate & Create (dream, vision, set goals, begin program)
Peak or Plateau (make progress, decline and deny, get triggered)
Complete or Abandon (interrupt or end, let go and grieve, withdraw)
Reflect and Integrate (self-renewal, seek support, experiment)
If you think back to a project at work, it probably went through some of these phases. And your life overall goes through these cycles as well.
Honoring where you are.
Where are you on the JourneyWell Wheel right now? Are you in a period of growth and expansion, or have you recently finished a big project and it’s time to let go and withdraw?
The importance of grieving, renewal and seeking support.
Having just completed a big launch for the CWYL Program and hosted a World Constellations event in our home at the end of March, I recently finished some big projects for my work.
And if I’m honest, I’m ending the phase of grieving and completing, and moving into a phase of withdrawing, self-renewal and seeking support.
For me, “Reflect and Integrate” is the hardest place on the wheel to be! It’s so tempting to jump straight to the next thing without pausing.
We don’t live in a world that honors the importance of taking time to withdraw and integrate.
When we’ve completed something, whether it’s a marriage or a big project at work, our society doesn’t encourage us to pause and take the space we need to let go and grieve, to withdraw, integrate and practice self-renewal before we move on to the next thing.
One of the reasons I find it hard to deepen into withdrawing, self-renewal and seeking support is because none of these things are tangible or can be measured.
And we live in a world where everyone wants to know; “what did you do today?”
It’s not easy to feel like you’ve had a productive day when you’re practicing withdrawing and self-renewal!
It takes incredible courage to honor the importance of these phases of the wheel, because you may initially have less “to show for it” to the outside world.
And yet, it is exactly in honoring these quiet periods that you will restore and renew yourself for the next chapter. The new life that wants to grow and expand in your next cycle.
I still remember when I had a miscarriage at about nine weeks pregnant when we were trying to have a second child. I was so sad for days. I couldn’t imagine working.
Occasionally, I craved work as a distraction. But mostly, I just wanted to grieve.
At the time, I remember thinking how many of my girlfriends had suffered from miscarriages, or other losses. And how uncommon it was for anyone to take even one day off work to grieve or withdraw after such an experience.
I have the fortune of running my own business; I can control my own schedule, and I still struggled to give myself time and space to grieve and practice self-renewal before moving on from that loss.
I used to think “grief” only happens with major tragedy or death. But recently, I’ve been noticing there’s always a little grief when something ends. Even if it’s a project at work, or a vacation, it’s important to spend a little time grieving and honoring things when they come to an end.
Reflect on your experience before jumping to the next thing.
So today I’m asking you; Do you struggle to honor and appreciate the importance of grief, withdrawal, self-renewal or seeking support?
Let us know in the comments below!
In what way are you needing more self-renewal or time to pause and reflect before beginning the next thing?
Today, I made a new commitment to myself (which you’re welcome to borrow!):
I Commit to honoring and appreciating all the cycles of my business and life.
I give myself permission to grieve, reflect, renew, integrate and seek support before moving on to the next thing.