by Vanessa Loder | May 8, 2023 | Uncategorized |
We often make up stories about people. Like, she must be so confident. Or he thinks his ideas are so superior. But we don’t look under the hood to 1) really get to know the person or 2) check out if our assumptions are true or 3) tell other people how their...
by Vanessa Loder | Apr 18, 2023 | Blog Posts |
When you describe your life to others, or even in your own mind, what are you saying? What story are you telling about yourself? Our narratives become our reality. Learn to let go of your old story and step into a new one – vomit noises help! A super quick, fun...
by Vanessa Loder | Mar 18, 2023 | Blog Posts |
In the last few weeks, we talked about how to create identity level change, and how to live from the inside out by allowing your core self to lead the way. Quick recap: The autobiographical self is the ego-based identity that consists of the stories we tell about...
by Vanessa Loder | Mar 18, 2023 | Blog Posts |
Last week, we talked about how to create real, lasting behavior change by focusing on your identity, thoughts and feelings rather than your actions and results. If you want different results, you must think different thoughts and cultivate different feelings. If you...
by Vanessa Loder | Mar 18, 2023 | Blog Posts |
For the past ten years, I’ve studied how to create change in human behavior. Mostly, I’ve been marinating in my own petri dish (and it ain’t always been pretty.) And, I’ve had the honor of supporting thousands of other beautiful souls in discovering a life of greater...
by Vanessa Loder | Mar 6, 2023 | Blog Posts |
There’s a dad I know who’s funny, but in a snarky and mean way. He teases people and puts them down. And he can be quite witty, so he gets a lot of laughs. I’ve been healing some really old childhood pain. Some days, I feel so tender and raw. Like my precious heart is...
by Vanessa Loder | Feb 26, 2023 | Blog Posts |
I messed up. And my 6 year old son James gave me the advice I most needed to hear… The other weekend in Tahoe, I messed up in a small way by signing our daughter up for the wrong week of summer camp (NOT with all her friends). The night before, I had anxiety...
by Vanessa Loder | Feb 22, 2023 | Blog Posts |
We all have some version of a hole in our heart. A place of not-enoughness and pain that we don’t want to feel. Here’s a quick 2 minute video explaining this, and sharing some solutions: READ: Check out the book No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz and Learn Inner Child...
by Vanessa Loder | Feb 1, 2023 | Blog Posts |
In case you didn’t get a chance to check out our newly released Book Trailer, here it is: Today, I wanted to share the backstory of how we made this video. It’s been a four month labor of love and I’m very proud of the end result. But it didn’t start off this...
by Vanessa Loder | Jan 12, 2023 | Blog Posts |
Ever feel like you have to take care of everything (and everyone!), and yet who is taking care of you? Today’s short video is about why you may feel this way, what are the underlying causes and how you can feel less alone shouldering this burden… If you feel...
